{"id":51393,"date":"2026-09-24T17:03:12","date_gmt":"2026-09-24T14:03:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sbs.strathmore.edu\/?p=51393"},"modified":"2026-09-24T17:03:12","modified_gmt":"2026-09-24T14:03:12","slug":"can-we-stop-pretending-we-have-it-all-together","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sbs.strathmore.edu\/en_gb\/can-we-stop-pretending-we-have-it-all-together\/","title":{"rendered":"Can We Stop Pretending We Have It All Together?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Let\u2019s be real for a second. How much energy did you waste today trying to look like you\u2019ve got your entire life figured out?<\/p>\n

Whether you\u2019re a student drowning in assignments, a young professional trying not to mess up at work, or just an adult staring into the fridge at 7 p.m. with no plan, the pressure is real. We live in a world obsessed with looking smooth and shiny.<\/p>\n

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Scroll through social media or LinkedIn and it\u2019s a non-stop highlight reel: awards, promotions, perfect morning coffee. Nobody posts the burnt toast, the bank account on zero, or the 2 a.m. existential crisis in the shower. The unwritten rule is clear\u2014hide the mess. Never let them see you trip.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

So we perform. We put on the outfit, force the smile, and act like we\u2019re made of indestructible plastic. Carrying that fake version around all day is exhausting.<\/p>\n

The Japanese Fix for Broken Things<\/h3>\n

There\u2019s an old Japanese practice that completely rejects this obsession with looking perfect. It\u2019s called kintsugi.<\/p>\n

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In Ikigai:<\/strong> The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life<\/em>, H\u00e9ctor Garc\u00eda and Francesc Miralles describe how Japanese culture finds beauty in things that are imperfect and broken. Instead of throwing away a cracked piece of china, artisans repair it with lacquer mixed with real gold powder, highlighting the cracks rather than hiding them. The broken object becomes even more beautiful and valuable than before (p. 148, Penguin Life edition).<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Most of us would sweep the pieces into the trash or scramble to make the crack disappear. Kintsugi does the opposite. It treats the damage as history worth showing.<\/p>\n

What If We Treated Ourselves the Same Way?<\/h3>\n

What if your embarrassing mistakes, awkward phases, failed exams, or messy breakups weren\u2019t flaws you had to bury? What if those rough patches are exactly where the real character got built?<\/p>\n

The gold lines don\u2019t make the bowl weaker. They make its history visible. The same can be true for us.<\/p>\n

Realness Builds Connection, Not Pity<\/h3>\n

A lot of people stay quiet because they don\u2019t want pity. Nobody wants the tilted head and the \u201coh, you poor thing\u201d look. That feels awful.<\/p>\n

But being honest about the hard parts isn\u2019t asking for sympathy. It\u2019s how actual respect and connection form.<\/p>\n

Real friendships almost never start with two people trading highlight reels. That just feels like two polished versions of ourselves bumping into each other. Connection usually happens when someone finally drops the act and says, \u201cHonestly? I have no idea what I\u2019m doing right now.\u201d<\/p>\n

Most of the time the other person doesn\u2019t run. They exhale and say, \u201cThank god, me neither.\u201d<\/p>\n

You Don\u2019t Have to Broadcast Everything<\/h3>\n

This doesn\u2019t mean dumping your deepest struggles on every social media post or stranger.<\/p>\n

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The gold in kintsugi only goes along the actual cracks\u2014not smeared everywhere. Being real can be as simple as telling a trusted friend that work has been overwhelming this week, or admitting to a colleague that you made a mistake instead of blaming the Wi-Fi (or the alarm…even…something mildly inconvenient like stepping on wet surface while wearing socks).<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Nobody actually expects you to be flawless. Life gets messy. Things break. We all stumble.<\/p>\n

So stop trying to look like a brand-new, untouched piece of plastic. The cracks are where your story lives\u2014and the gold looks better on you anyway.<\/p>\n

Your Call<\/h3>\n

Some people find freedom in showing the cracks. Others prefer to keep certain parts private and still do just fine. Both approaches can work depending on the situation and the person.<\/p>\n

The question isn\u2019t which one is \u201cright.\u201d It\u2019s which one feels more honest and sustainable for you right now.<\/p>\n

Reference<\/h3>\n
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  • Garc\u00eda, H., & Miralles, F. (2016). Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life. Penguin Life, p. 148.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

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